I'm 25 and thinking about dating a 20 year old. What are some things to consider in a relationship when dating someone a lot younger than you? Obviously sex is one since I think she's a virgin.
What are some other things to look out for? It's huge in terms of life experience though and that's something the OP would be looking for.
When speaking generally, we typically don't 26 hookup a 23 year old about the exceptional cases, but the average. Yes but the average 20 year old is still getting an allowance from mom and dad while the average 25 year old is working towards building their life independently. That isn't too big an age gap.
I don't think you'll have too many problems and you should seriously think about seeing her. The best advice I could give you, personally, is that her parents may be somewhat disapproving and it is very important that you respect their concerns. I think it's important to realise that a lot of things that may seem trivial or stupid to you the older party are going to be a big deal for your younger other half. You have been there and experienced those things, you've learned that there are bigger fish to fry, but they will be experiencing it for the first time and it will have greater 26 hookup a 23 year old to them.
The important thing is that you can share in that positively with them and not patronise them or lessen the experience. My friend gets exasperated with his girlfriend because she gets excited over random stuff that means so little to him now. She is also a big drinker - since she's just getting into that stage in life - whilst he has been there and done that and would rather settle for a few quiet beers in his house these days.
She spends a lot of time on social media stuff, gazing at her phone, trying to show him things and he rolls his eyes at her and treats her like she is dumb.
It really sucks the joy out of everything for her. I don't predict that it will last between them but it has been an eye-opening experience for me to watch them together. This is great advice thanks. She also says that she is mature for her age, but I think the anyone who is actually mature doesn't need to verbalize that. What do you think 26 hookup a 23 year old signs of maturity for someone around that age?
That is a sure sign of maturity in anybody of any age. If she can admit that she is wrong about something without making you suffer for bringing her to that conclusion, then I would say she was mature. If she is willing to laugh at herself or downplay herself rather than constantly try and impress you, which I think is a natural instinct for the young towards those who are older, then she is displaying maturity.
I think your key indicator is going to be how well she can hold a conversation. Can she really pay attention, focus on what you are saying? Is she interested and communicating back with you? Does she share her opinions and give you time to express yours? If she can engage with you and talk to you and doesn't feel like she has to protect herself or play up to your expectations then I would say that she is fairly mature for her age. You don't have to judge her, of course, but you have to consider what it'll be like 4 or 5 dates in if she hasn't developed the ability to communicate at your level.
I would also recommend NOT sleeping with her if the opportunity comes up swiftly after your first date. In fact, I would suggest that, if she were to go down that route, then it is a warning sign of immaturity. I agree that five years isn't a big difference in the scheme of everything, but the gap between 20 and 25 is pretty significant.
A 16 year old dating an 11 year old would be creepy. Yes, you're both adults, but she isn't done maturing. She'll probably change a lot over the next couple years. I know I did. I'm not saying not to date her, but I would keep it very casual for awhile. I'm think more along the lines of emotional maturity because I feel like there's a huge difference between being 26 hookup a 23 year old and around At 23, you learn how to take care of yourself and how to truly be independent.
I just turned 25, and I'm still absolutely figuring it out. But every time I figure something out, something else pops up. Considering the amount of 25 year olds still living at home after college, I'd say most of them haven't finished maturing yet either.
Just the other day I saw a guy here talking about his 65K a year job he got after college, but he still lives with 26 hookup a 23 year old parents. Are you telling me that he can't afford a 2 bedroom apt. Of course he can. He just isn't ready to buy his own socks and underwear. But, he'll complain he can't find a gf. On a positive note, if you're in the US she can't follow you into bars. She is going to be in a very different stage in life, and for a while there will be a very distinct imbalance to your relationship.
That's not necessarily the end of the world, but you have to be a little more vigilant to make sure your relationship is always one between equals and neither of you ends up resenting the other. Different life places will account for most of it. If she's in college and you have a career, that's very different amounts of free time and windows 26 hookup a 23 year old availability. There isn't much to look out for. I am in a relationship that started with her at 19 me at 25 we have been together 7 years at this point.
IMO emotional maturity is the most important thing.
You can have things in common, but that doesn't matter if she or you can't handle a relationship without possessiveness. How did that go? Did you have a set age when you wanted to start having kids?
To date we have only discussed marriage for the simple fact she is a Taiwanese citizen.
Neither of us are interested in marriage as we aren't religious. We have considered children, but of course we would rather wait while she develops her career. The most important thing in any relationship is the willingness to allow each other to grow; sadly this means you may not stay together.
We are both interested in having children, just want more stability and for her to be generating a decent income. I make enough for us both, but she wants her own personal security which i completely understand and want her to have. A lot of people are saying that 5 years isn't a lot, but I would disagree here.