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Is dating a friends ex bad

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I'm in a pickle. Over the last couple of weeks, I've been hanging out with a close friend's ex-girlfriend, platonically, after we ran into each other at Starbucks.

We have a real connection. I can't stop thinking about her. I'm kind of obsessed. And I think she wants to take it to the next level, too. The problem is, my friend had a deep relationship with this girl, and I think he's still kind of in love with her.

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So what do I do here? Can I get away with dating my friend's ex?

Does this mean you should...

Will he be able to handle this? This is a tough one, because dating a friend's ex is one of the most essential dating taboos. Which is that people never really get over significant romantic relationships. I don't mean that you can never be happy again after breaking up with someone.

Of course you can. But it's largely a matter of compartmentalizing. You get a new and even prettier girlfriend, or hang out with your friends more, or get into jiu jitsu or knitting. You get a new life so you don't spend all your time sitting around and crying about your old one like the baby you are.

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Sure, people will talk about their old relationships and say that they're "over it" or that it "wasn't meant to be," or pepper you with other related nonsense phrases, but what they mean is they're not thinking about it right now. All of those old wounds stick around, just waiting to be re-opened.

Why is he still on an online hookup site

You're always going to feel weird when you see your ex, at least a little bit. If you're still friends with your exit wasn't that serious, or it's still serious.


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